Psychologist Reacts: Cole Calls Zanab Bipolar (Love Is Blind)

I wanted to call people’s attention to the analysis here because it’s so crucially important to social relations.

“Love Is Blind” follows couples who fell in love sight unseen to track whether they can continue toward marriage in real life, once they’ve met in person.

Here, in the heat of an argument, Cole basically calls Zanab crazy (“bipolar” is the code) because she gets snippy when she is mad at him.

This is of course a common tactic in abusive relationships and is particularly relevant from the perspective of men’s historic oppression of women. (Yes, this does exist.)

In modern society, people have a range of mental illnesses from chronic anxiety to depression, bipolar disorder, OCD, schizophrenia, and so on. They have personality disorders that we are now coming to understand better and better. These illnesses are exacerbated by stress. They are also responsive to treatment.

The psychologist calls out sexism in this moment but also demonstrates a fealty to accurate diagnosis. He calls out his own colleagues in the profession for failing to do their basic homework and misdiagnosing people as bipolar when they are not.

People who actually do have conditions will obviously retreat from sharing them if the condition itself is used as an epithet.

I really like this YouTube channel and encourage folks to check it out. I also like the show “Love Is Blind.”

By Dr. Dannielle Blumenthal (Dossy). All opinions are the author’s own. Public domain.