I remember being a little girl, listening to my new aunt fighting with my uncle.
My uncle is a gentle person, not many years older than me. He was always beyond devoted to the family, whether it was my grandparents, the siblings, the cousins, or their children.
No matter where he is, my uncle calls my mother religiously every week before Shabbos.
When one of my daughters visited his hometown, he said to me: “Tell her I will get her anywhere, anytime if there is a problem.” I knew what kind of problem he meant, and that would indeed get there faster than 911 if I called him.
Well, at the time I heard my new aunt fighting with my uncle, I remember that I got a terrible feeling of foreboding in my stomach. It was like I knew he was in for hell. And nothing I could say or do would stop it.
They lived near her family and had a number of children. Then got a divorce. She got custody. In a nightmare that nobody could have imagined, she cut my uncle off. This man, for whom the family was everything, had lost his children, and there was not a good goddamn thing any of us could do about it.
My uncle had a heart attack at the age of 44. I have no doubt that the indescribable grief of being alienated from his kids by a heartless shrew and her family was directly to blame.
Eventually he remarried. The woman he married is an unbelievable tzadeikes. A completely pure soul who loves him and treats him with tenderness, care, and affection.
My uncle also reconnected with at least one of his children. I was happy to hear that.
Fake feminists would have you think that women are born the victims of men, and so the natural response on our part should be to punish them preemptively and until the day they die. But that isn’t liberation. It is indoctrination into a kind of mental sickness.
A real feminist sees the world as belonging to HaShem. HaShem made men and women alike. Both are equally entitled to dignity and to a system of justice that is fair.
Always beware of people who trigger and weaponize your emotions to serve their selfish ends. Listen to your brain instead, to your own inner voice, to the evidence.
I am happy for my uncle, who is now retired with the love of his life. May HaShem bless them with happiness, peace and good health till 120.
Writing by Dr. Dannielle Blumenthal 