The strength of any community depends on its commitment to truth, fairness, and due process. Today, those values are being tested by a public pressure campaign targeting Raphael (Raphi) Stein, led by social media influencer Adina Miles Sash, known as “Flatbush Girl.” As someone outside your immediate community, I write with concern and urgency: the current campaign risks undermining both justice and communal integrity.
This matter is not merely a social dispute—it is the subject of active litigation in Rockland County: Stein v. Miles Sash et al. (Index No. 032319/2026). The Amended Verified Complaint, sworn on April 30, 2026, lays out serious allegations of defamation and harassment. This means that ongoing public actions—especially those amplifying or participating in the campaign—may carry legal consequences.
Facts vs. Narrative
The public campaign has labeled Mr. Stein a “Get refuser,” “sociopathic,” and a “coercive controller.” However, key facts challenge these claims:
- The Get timeline: The first documented request for a Get was made in January 2023, making claims of a five-year refusal mathematically impossible.
- No rabbinical ruling: No recognized Bais Din has declared Mr. Stein a Get refuser.
- No criminal findings: Mr. Stein has no criminal record and has not been found liable for abuse in any court.
- Disputed participation: Mr. Stein asserts he has acted in good faith, while alleging that his estranged wife has not participated in required Bais Din proceedings.
These points do not resolve the dispute—but they do show that the public narrative is far from settled fact.
Legal Risks of Participation
Community members should be aware that involvement in this campaign is not without risk. The lawsuit explicitly includes unnamed “Doe” defendants—individuals who may be added if they are found to have contributed to the alleged harassment.
Potential exposure includes:
- Liability as joint participants in defamation or harassment
- Being named in the lawsuit for amplifying or facilitating harmful claims
- Financial liability for damages or court-ordered relief
The complaint also alleges coordinated dissemination of private information, including Mr. Stein’s home, workplace, and children’s school—actions that courts take seriously.
A Call for Restraint and Due Process
Disputes of this complexity belong in courts and recognized rabbinical forums—not on social media. Public shaming campaigns may feel compelling, but they risk replacing truth with pressure and justice with spectacle.
The very actions being encouraged are now under judicial scrutiny. Continuing to participate may not only harm an individual but also expose others to legal and moral consequences.
The Monsey rabbinate and broader community have a responsibility to uphold standards of fairness, to resist mob dynamics, and to allow proper legal and religious processes to unfold. Whatever the outcome, it should be determined by evidence and authority—not by online campaigns.
Note: This article is based on allegations contained in the Amended Verified Complaint dated April 30, 2026, in Stein v. Miles Sash et al., Index No. 032319/2026. These claims have not been proven in court. The author is not a lawyer.
Writing by Dr. Dannielle Blumenthal 